(生活)教養出快樂兒童
讓孩子快樂是每個家長所設立的第一目標。為什麼?
一個快樂的兒童不會是尖叫、爭辯又難搞的小孩。快樂的孩子是更討人喜歡、更和善、更有禮貌而且能做出更好的決定。快樂的孩子學得更好、愛得更多而且擁有更多的正面看法,這些特質將在成長後仍然伴隨著他們。所以,如何讓你的孩子開心呢?
秘訣絕對不在於買糖果、玩具或其他物質的東西給他們。也不在於讓他們上最好的學校或強迫他們成為最好的學生。真正的是在於讓孩子融入他或她的世界,不受強迫,或拒絕給予他們不懂的東西。
舉個例子來說,「無拘束的玩耍」的概念,就是指讓孩子思考、想像和做任何她想要做的事,如此讓她探索真正讓她覺得開心的事,並發現她的熱情所在。往後孩子能將這些熱情發展成嗜好、才能或是長大後的職業。
此種心靈自由也讓孩子發展出解決各種問題所需的技能,從不夠高而無法開燈到像是結交朋友或是適應等社會問題。而且讓他感覺他所感受到的,並且真正傾聽他所說的。敞開心胸並以接納的態度,容許他了解如何做他自己。
(Life) Raising a Happy Child
Making your child happy is something every parent sets as their No.1 goal. Why?
Well, a happy child is not a screaming, arguing, difficult child.Happy children are more agreeable, nicer, more polite, and make better decisions.Happy children learn better, love more, and have more positive outlooks, and these traits stick with them as they grow up.So, how do you make your child happy?
The secret is absolutely not in buying them candy, toys, or other material things.Its also not about getting them into the best schools, or pushing them to be the best students. What it IS about is to let the child be involved in his or her world without being pushed, or denied things they don understand.
For example, the idea of free play, where a child can think about, imagine, and do whatever she wants, which lets her discover what really makes her feel good, and where her passions are. The child can then develop those passions into hobbies, talents, or a career as she grows older.
This kind of mental freedom also lets the child develop the skills needed to solve all kinds of problems, from not being tall enough to turn on a light, to social problems like making friends or fitting in.And let him feel what he feels, and really listen to what he says.Being open and accepting allows him to understand how it is to be... himself.
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